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小心!四个习惯毁了你的谈话

时间:2022-5-5 作者:旺旺英语学习网

1. Are You a Parrot?

Do you find yourself just paraphrasing or repeating what the other person said? If they say, “that was a cool movie!” do you say, “Yeah, that was a really cool movie!”? Parrots act like they are having a conversation, but in reality, they rarely actually offer anything substantive. Parrots rely on echoing and paraphrasing others.

Suggestion: If you find yourself just echoing what they are saying, try to offer substantive opinions or observations as well.

1.你是只鹦鹉吗?

你有没发现自己只不过讲解或重复别的人说过的话?假如他们说,“这真是部非常棒的电影啊!”你是否说,“是的,它“确实”是部非常棒的电影!”?鹦鹉看着像是会说话,但事实上,他们极少真的的说过什么实质性的话。鹦鹉靠的是效仿和重复其他人的话。

建议:假如你发现自己只不过在重复他们说的,那样试着去表达些实质性的建议,也可以做出一些评论。

2. Are You an Energy Vampire?

You may have fascinating stories and opinions to share, but if your energy cannot support the comments, people may find you hard to listen to. Lacking energy or emotion when you talk can ruin your conversation faster than almost any other bad habit. Good conversation is alive; good conversation flows with energy between the conversationalists. If you are not adding to the flow of energy, then you are probably subtracting from it.

Suggestions: Think of your voice as a roller coaster ride for your listeners. Are you creating a flat, boring ride? Try to make your roller coaster ride enjoyable for your particular audience; add some vocal drops, some inclines, and vary your speed. Vary your inflections and emphasize key words as well.

Also, record your voice in private. In fact, re-read this section in your normal voice and play it back. If you have never recorded yourself before, you’ll be surprised by what you hear!

2.你是一只活力吸血鬼吗?

你或许沉迷推荐故事和看法,但,假如你没支撑整个谈话的活力,大家会感觉非常难再听你讲下去。谈话时缺少活力和感情会比其它不好的习惯更快的毁了你们的谈话。好的交流是生动的;谈话者之间充满了活力。假如你不可以不断加大这类活力,那样活力非常可以会慢慢流失。

建议:把你的声音想象成是在叫你的听众乘坐一趟过山车。你是不是正在形成一次单调,无聊的旅程?试着为你这类特别的观众创造一次愉快的过山车旅程;增加一些语调的升降,变化语速。也可以改变声调强调关键字。

同时,私下里录下我们的声音。用你正常的声音再读一次这部分然后重播。假如你以前从没录过我们的声音,所听到的将会叫你大吃一惊!

3. Are You a Predictable Talker?

The Predictable Talker lives in the serious and literal world. If they get up to use the restroom, and you ask them where they are going, they will always respond, “to the restroom.” Everything they say is predictable; they’ll never surprise you with something unexpected. In contrast, a Playful Talker may respond to that question with a number of unpredictable playful responses. For example, “I thought I’d leave you with the bill,” or “I’m going to pickup that girl,” or “I’m trying to escape.” The best conversation is playful and unpredictable; Predictable Talkers have trouble playing!

Suggestion: Train your mind to start considering the unexpected responses. Next time someone asks you a question or makes a comment, mentally think about what response would be unexpected or unpredictable (within reason!). Once in a while, try one of these unexpected comments and see how you do. You may surprise yourself.

3.你是一个没想象力的谈话者吗?

没想象力的谈话者生活在一个严肃乏味的世界时。假如他们要去饭店的时候,你问他们要到哪里,他们都会回答“去饭店”。他们说的所有事情都是可以想得到的;他们决不会说出一些预料以外的话使你惊讶。相反的,一个有幽默感的人会用一连串想不到的有意思的话来回答问题。比如,“我想我就要和钱离开你了。。”或是“我要去认识那个女生。”,或是“我正要逃跑。”最好的谈话就是要有趣而且被人想不到;没想象力的谈话者将会碰到麻烦!

建议:练习你的思维,从考虑被人想不到的回答开始。下次假如有人问你问题或是讨论的时候,在心里想想哪种回答是被人没想到的或是猜不着的(当然是适当的!)。偶乐试一试说些被人意料之外的话,看看自己表现假如。你会让自己吃惊的。

4. Are You a Conversation Narcissist?

Conversation Narcissists love nothing more than to talk about themselves. The only reason they ask the other person a question like, “How was your weekend?” is so they can circle it back around to them again, “that’s nice…let me tell you about what happened to me…” They rarely inquire seriously about the other person or ask follow up questions.

Suggestion: This is easy to fix, be genuinely interested in the other person. When someone tells you something, keep the focus on them, ask follow up questions, recall previous comments the person said, etc.

4.你是一个以自我为中心的谈话者吗?

以自我为中心的谈话者只喜欢说我们的事。他们问其他人问题的唯一缘由,如“你周末过得如何?”,只不过因此可以转个弯回来讲我们的事。“这可真很好呀……让我对你说我遇见啥事了……”他们极少认真的询问其他人,或继续刚刚的问题。

建议:这比较容易解决,就是要真的的对别的人有兴趣。假如有人对你说一些事情,持续关注它,问些关于它们的问题,想想刚刚这个人所说的话等等。

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